If you look at that photo of me taken about 10 years ago, you might not recognize me as I am today.
It was a time when I was going through the motions of life and, more often than not, struggling with self-defeating thoughts about my body, my career path, and whether I was really showing up in the world as the woman I wanted to be.
I did all of the stuff I was “supposed” to do — I had a loving husband, two beautiful kids, a house, a few friends, a job, and an outstanding education.
Yet, I remember and immediately dissecting my body, my face, and my posture. I was too worn out to feel angry, so I sank into frustration, and most of all, sadness.
I couldn’t see the beauty — I just saw tired eyes, a too-subtle smile, and me hiding my 38 year old body in boxy clothes. I saw woman dying to climb out from behind those extra pounds I was carrying on my frame.
That was not who I wanted to be or how I wanted to see myself — and not just on the outside, but the inside, too.
I asked myself — would my 13 year old self — the girl full of dreams about a life filled with adventure, friendship, true love, freedom, babies, travel and glamour — recognize herself in me at 37 — almost 38 — years old?
When I got quiet with myself and let my mind mesh with my heart, I heard the answer: “No. And how do you want to change this, Laura?”
“I felt stuck because I didn’t fully believe I could create the life I wanted. It was time to let go of the past making me who I am. The biggest shift came when Laura asked me this: “Do you want that to define who you are?” That was a major turning point for me; I decided I didn’t want to be a victim in my own life.”
This inspired me to embark on a personal revolution fueled love and compassion for myself, eating for energy and with joy, and a courtship with physical fitness that took me from shrinking in the back corner of a Zumba class to standing at the front of the room as a certified instructor with a headset on, and my sassy and loving voice passionately instructing a room full of women to move. And be moved.
What I know now is that I was in the process of
not just changing my life, but saving my life.
It was that remarkable.
Once I popped that cork on the champagne of personal transformation, there was no stopping me. Things felt slow to me at first, but I learned patience and dedication for myself.
And then things really got revved up.
People saw the astonishing evolution of my entire being — the body and shedding of weight, the confidence in my words and actions, the bravery to forge my unique career, the joy and lust for life, and the unique culture of my beautiful little family.
I got really clear on how I was going to envision my life and what thoughts, feelings and actions would match it, and I never looked back.
And the “me” that emerged? A passionate, empowered, confident, joyful, resilient, adventurous and free woman.
I became and will remain unstoppable.
That’s the power of having an accountability partner in your life. That’s what I do now as both a therapist and a life coach.
“Laura’s empathy and compassion are her superpowers. She really sees you with her heart, and she tells you the truth. She’s a glass of champagne with a whiskey back.
Once my coach and I renovated my mindset and designed the thoughts and actions that would fuel my transformation, my life was never the same.
I am practicing psychotherapist (a LMFT) and added life coaching to the mix as an additional way to help my clients change or improve their lives.
Since 2012, I have built a therapy and coaching practice with 1:1 clients from all over the world, speaking engagements, online coaching programs that change lives, and events that connect women through an opulent and life-altering coaching + dining experience, as well as retreats in my home state.
What I thought was “wrong” with me, my life, and my
body is my great success story. It’s the story of my
one true love, actually. And that love story was about
meeting me and the woman I wanted to be.
So are you ready to get moving and be moved by your own wild and precious life? Want to see how the love and respect you have for yourself and your body is the key to unlocking your personal revolution?
“Working with Laura, learning from her and observing how she lives her life (she is all in y’all), brought about the gentlest of shifts to my thinking. And with that, I released about 15 lbs, but more than the weight loss, I lost that internal voice that was always telling me “not you.” Today, I ask, “how can I make this happen?” For that, I’m forever grateful.”
No matter what, though, my greatest desire is for women to do something. Be proactive about your happiness.
Read, see, do, or act in a way that lets you tap into the magnificence of being alive. Do one small thing every day that touches the flame of what’s possible for you. I did, and I just keep on going to create what’s next.