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Great Day Live! November, 6th.
They keep letting me come back!
I got to stop by the Great Day Live! show again this week to offer you some socializing tips as we enter the holiday season.
Some people thrive when it comes to holiday parties that involve walking into a room full of strangers (or even a room filled with people you do know — maybe that makes it worse) and interacting with good tidings, joy, and cheer.
And there are others who would rather stay in the coatroom with a cocktail and their Instagram feed.
Maybe you’re somewhere in between.
No matter where you land, chances are you’ll attend a gathering like this in the next six or seven weeks; so here are some ways to square your shoulders, come out of the coatroom and maybe … just maybe … enjoy yourself versus gutting it out.
And when I offer guidance like this, I know it needs to be quick and memorable content (“tips” or “tricks” or “5 Ways To …”), but I always set a bigger intention in my heart for how I can help others, and this week, it’s this:
- You don’t have to ask the perfect questions or have polished answers.
- You don’t have to be bored. You can choose to be bored, but you don’t have to be.
- You don’t have to be alone or lonely; even though we need our downtime, humans are hardwired to connect with others. That’s why we still exist on this planet.
- You can live a vibrant, more engaged life just by showing up and being yourself.
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I post something almost every single day on social media that’s inspirational, motivational, educational or just plain “here’s a fun slice of my life.”
My most popular post this week did not get the most “hearts” or “likes” when I put it on Facebook; instead, I got lots of private messages and emails from people saying, “thank you — I needed to hear this” or “I wish more people would do this; I’m so glad you put it out there.”
There’s no “peak season” for experiencing loneliness, loss, confusion or despair; yet, this time of year tends to magnify those feelings for some of us.
When the world is basically in an eight-week-long commercial for joy, giving, connection and engagement, there can be a tendency to go further into dark places and isolate yourself when you don’t feel like you belong in that cheerful landscape.
Yes, individuals need to reach out and ask for what they need, but as a whole, we could also stand to check in with each other more.
Here’s this week’s message:
“WHO NEEDS TO HEAR FROM YOU TODAY?
And who may not “need” it (or will say they need it), but it might mean the world to them?
There doesn’t even have to be a reason like they’ve gone through a difficult time; you can check in just because it’s Tuesday and it’s an act of kindness.
If you can’t do it in-person, a message is great. You can use one of mine if you want:
“Hey, I’m checking on you. No need to reply. Just know you’re in my thoughts.”
“Checking in to see how your day is going. No reason except you’re my friend (sister, spouse, partner, daughter, colleague) and I care about you (or I love you, or I thought of you today).”
Go beyond having someone else cross your mind.
Act on it.
It may take a few minutes, but it might be something the person on the receiving end will never forget.
It should go without saying (but I’ll say it anyway), that yes, people need to ask for what they want or need.
It’s not another person’s capability or responsibility to read someone else’s mind or solve their problems.
That’s not what this is about.
It’s about the fact that we’ve ALL been that person who would have cherished being seen and heard, but we told ourselves we were an imposition or a burden.
We felt too vulnerable revealing ourselves. It was easier to hide…until it wasn’t.
Showing up for someone when they don’t ask is a gesture that aligns with one of my favorite quotes, “We’re all just walking each other home.”
We’ve all had our bad days, struggles, grief, sadness — and I’m willing to bet that most of us would have been lifted by a check-in.
And if you’re worried about what you’ll “have to do” with their reply if the persons reveal something besides “I’m fine” — just take a beat and let them know that you may not know what to do or say, but that you are on their side.
On a larger scale, I’m a belligerent advocate about check-on / check-ins because it COULD be the key to helping another person who is in a very dark place.
It’s possible you could be the bridge for someone getting the support they may desperately need.
And for f%$k’s sake, could we please extend ourselves like this a little more instead of depending on tragedies to start open and honest conversations about things that are hard to talk about like depression?
Your small gesture could have a much larger impact than you think.
Be a burst of light in someone’s life today.
You don’t have to be their sun and moon.
And remember, we’re all just walking each other home.”
If you’re interested in the possibility of working with me one-on-one and want to see if we’re a good fit, you can find out by scheduling a free 15-minute consultation call with me.
We’ll chat about what’s on your mind and you can ask me anything you want about how I see us moving forward and working together.
We can work session-by-session or I have long-term coaching packages we can also discuss.
There’s no “hard sell” or push to move forward — it’s entirely in your hands in terms of whether or not you want to move forward and when.
I’m not going anywhere — I’ll be ready when you are.
Have a great week!