This is one of my favorite photos of myself. It was taken at a professional shoot about three years ago.
Every so often, like this week, I’ll post it in some context on social media or send it out in a communication to the subscribers on my email list.
Sometimes, I’ll get curious and “check the stats” when I do that.
It can go either way.
There are instances where I’ll get a slew of unsubscribes, unf0llows and unfriends.
I’ve gotten messages along the lines of, “I really liked what you stood for and had to say until you did this.”
I’ve also heard, “Young women could really benefit from what you have to teach and offer, but you post things like this that make you unshareable.”
I mean … damn.
What a shutdown.
“You are fierce.”
“I love this.”
Nothing like the sight of a woman reveling in her body to polarize people.
This is fascinating to me.
Honestly, I look at those numbers because I’m partly intrigued and ponder what makes one person cheer and another turn away; but there’s also that part of me that still worries about whether people will accept and like me.
Will they think things like:
- She’s inappropriate.
- Full of herself.
- She’s embarrassing her husband and damaging her children.
You know how people say that when you think of the things you think other people think of you, it’s what you really think about yourself?
Yes, I am inappropriate.
I’m pushing my own envelope on whether I think “it’s okay” to display myself like that.
I think I’m inappropriate because it was the way I was conditioned to think by many sources, and I want to rebel against that.
I am unprofessional.
I’m unprofessional because I don’t know of many other mental health and personal development professionals who show up naked on the internet.
Do I still have credibility if there’s an image of me with no clothes on?
Will colleagues raise an eyebrow because I’m not a “blank slate” practitioner who doesn’t reveal herself because “it ain’t about you” if you’re helping other people?
If you think it’s “all about me” and objectifying my body, you’re missing the point, anyway.
I am full of myself.
First of all, I love my brain and the way I look at and live my life. I am cerebral. And some drama. And a lot of emotion.
I also love to look at me.
I have itty-bitty-titty committee boobs (proud lifetime member), stretch marks from babies and gaining and losing weight; forehead veins that pop out when I laugh really hard or do intense exercise, and a weird growth on my right thigh that my doctor and dermatologist shrug off and say is fine — it doesn’t need to be drained or cut out (!).
You get older, and strange, unwelcome shit starts growing in places.
I am perfectly at home with all of that.
Same thing with my face, shoulders, hair, butt, ears (my mom always said I have “seashell ears”), my veiny hands and soft and sculpted abs.
Love it. All of it.
I encourage the women I work with to become full of themselves, too. They don’t have to have naked photos taken to own that, but I’ll cheer them on if they do.
I do have a husband and two children.
They know who I am.
How I look.
That I’m vulnerable and kind of want to hide sometimes.
That I’m inappropriate.
And full of myself.
That I love them so big.
That I have so much room to love them because I also love me.
I love the human body.
It’s an absolute miracle.
I get so excited about that.
I love the body for housing our minds, our spirits and all of the moving parts that make us breathe, laugh, cry, get hungry and give life.
When I’m at work, I beckon my clients to lean into their own physical and mental revolutions instead of apologizing for their bodies.
You don’t have a damn thing to be sorry about.
So hey — whatever it means to you to get naked?
“The only thing in this life that you absolutely, completely own is the body you live in.
It arrived with your first breath when you were born, and it will be there for your last.
You don’t own your children or your spouse or partner.
You don’t even own your material things — those come and go.
But this body belongs to you and only you.
How are you going to love her and take care of her?”
Yep, shit gets broken down to the chill of truth AND is poetic in my world.
Working with me = “I love you…and I’m not playin’ around. Let’s get down to business .”
Here’s your opportunity to do just that … read on.
Mind. Movement. Momentum.
I deliver as much education, hope, motivation and inspiration as I can in my newsletters, blog posts, Facebook and Instagram.
Transformation doesn’t come from the read-and-scroll, though.
Putting it into action does, and that is why people work with me.
I am the one who can guide you to applying it — not just admiring it or wishing for it.
I am the one who can show you that you can go to greater depths than you’re letting yourself believe.
I am the one who will coach you to:
Do it again and again and again until this becomes who you are.
Ready to go beyond the read-and-scroll?
NO beating yourself up.
NO one-size-fits-all plan.
NO “cheat days” (hate that term).
NO food jail (the restriction / elimination / “dangerous” food mentality).
NO to being a “good” or “bad” person as defined by what you put into your mouth.
NO “I hate” …. “don’t have time for” … “can’t do”… “am too tired for” … “it’s boring” exercise lies.
NO putting yourself and your health so far on the back burner of life that you ain’t even on the stove — you’re still in the dark cupboard with the other pots and pans.
And what if, in 30 days, you would be able to say:
YES to your plan for your life.
YES to small steps resulting in big changes.
YES to now versus someday.
YES to trusting yourself.
YES to consistency and commitment.
YES to progress versus perfection.
YES to resilience — because life happens, and there’s a distraction, disruption, drama, and disappointment. You will train your brain to remember your “why” and keep going.
YES to an appreciation for your body — love for your body — and what it gives you every day versus it not being enough or taking too much space.
YES to discovering that maybe — just maybe — you might be an athlete. I became one in my 40s when, up until then, I never even considered it to be a possibility.
YES to having someone champion you, guide you, encourage you, teach you and motivate you (that’s me! I’m all yours!).
It’s time to Level Up.
In my practice, I offer 15-minute free phone consultation for prospective clients.
Almost every single conversation is a rundown of challenges and pain points where women need my help:
They are seeking overall happiness and fulfillment.
We’ll talk about their careers, partners, children, grief, money or loneliness.
And quite often, in those last five or six minutes of our conversation, she will say something like this:
“And also …”
- “I hate my body.”
- “I’ve never felt or looked worse in my whole life.”
- “I overeat to make myself feel better. Then I feel angry and ashamed. Then I do it again.”
- “I hate exercising. I start with the dedication and then I let it go.
- “I’m eating (or sometimes drinking) more than I really want or need to. I don’t like how that feels.”
- “Exercise is for people who have more time than I do. I am so smothered by my career and family obligations that there is no way I can make time for it. Everything will fall apart.”
- “I did the ____________diet, and all I did was obsess over counting points/carb cycling / the number of almonds I could eat / macros / the number of pounds I gained back after I “finished” the program.”
Don’t get me wrong, the other issues people bring to me are important, but what I have learned by working with clients for thousands of hours is this:
If we only address those other issues and I’m not asking you if you have a plan for taking care of your health and how you put that into action, then everything else is really just a house of cards.
My experience has shown me that the reverse doesn’t work — or at least doesn’t hold up long.
The job, the baby, the money, the kids being raised or the perfect partner aren’t always going to make you take excellent care of yourself.
It’s not about perfection or being happy all of the time; life is full of ebbs and flows and ups-and-downs.
Let’s talk about the exercise you love, food as your friend, time for self-reflection and fun as the foundation of your growth and happiness.
THIS … THIS is what women are really calling me for most of the time:
“Please help me learn how to take better care of my body.”
“Please help me figure out how exercise doesn’t have to suck.”
“Please help me get off the diet train and do something sane and sustainable when it comes to food.”
“Please help me figure out how to stay motivated.”
“Please help me be able to like my body. Is it even possible to love my body?”
So I’m coming to you with something that’s all about that — coaching, challenges, support, accountability, love, and toughness around how to live in your best body.
I’ve created a 1:1 coaching “express” package for you called LEVEL UP.
Level Up with courage with tenacity.
Level Up with love and patience.
It’s a laser-focused program that focuses on putting your health on the top shelf.
This is what I do. This is my best work.
Yes, I can help you with stress, depression, grief, anxiety or divorce, among other things.
What I know for sure, though, is that if you take care of your body and your mind supports that, you empower yourself to work through anything that is thrown at you in life.
It’s the first order of business with every single client I serve.
My personal experience has also taught me that taking exceptional care of myself has saved my ass. I know I can handle the rough waters if I stay physically and mentally strong.
I offer you my tools, guidance, and knowledge through social media and blog posts; thank you for the comments, messages, and emails where you let me know how they inspired you or helped you create change in your life.
However, there is nothing like having me all to yourself in your life. Scrolling and reading cannot compare to having an accountability partner who knows your history, your goals, where you need the most encouragement and what your lifestyle is like.
The depths of personal growth happens best when we connect with someone to be our champion, coach, counselor, teacher, and guide.
That’s what I did nine years ago when I got tired of going it alone with diets, self-help books and my stops-and-starts with exercise.
I hired a coach, decided who I wanted to be, and how I wanted my life to reflect that.
That 1:1 work inspired me to stop making promises to myself and become deeply committed. A promise is different from making a commitment.
When you get married, you make promises to one another to create a life together no matter the circumstances.
A commitment is deeper than the promise, and that comes with the day-to-day living.
When we’re committed to something, we find a way to appreciate ordinary life. Being consistent and committed is about loving what goes on in the in-between, not just the end result.
That’s what I want to teach you on this journey to take your health and fitness level to greater heights.
I want you to enjoy the process.
I want you to get comfortable with being uncomfortable and embrace the feeling of pushing yourself.
That’s when you become the woman you want to be and make self-care a priority. It will become as normal as brushing your teeth.
Level Up is a 1:1 coaching program that includes:
- Extensive pre-work from me (lots of questions for you to answer) so I know where you’re at and what you want before we dive into the first session.
- Three 1 hour sessions that are ideally scheduled no more than 10 days apart within the 30 days of the program. You can see me in person or we’ll have phone sessions.
- Those three sessions are scheduled right away so you have a solid commitment set up right away. That way, you can’t drift into weeks or months beyond the program. It’s an intensive, so the continuity of the time we meet is important.
- Plans, challenges, and homework designed specifically for your goals. Whether we’re focusing on your relationship with food or fitness (or both), I’ve got an arsenal of the best tools I’ve created and used with my clients for the past seven years. These are my “greatest hits” and some new things, too.
- Every Level Up participant can expect to work on the importance of their mindset and how this is the foundation of transforming anything in your life.
- In between those hour-long sessions, you can message me, text me or email me to share the progress of what we’ve designed for you in each session. If I don’t hear from you, I’ll come lookin’ — but it is your job — your commitment — to connect with me in this process. I am here to serve you; don’t take that for granted.
- You will be required to move your body during this process. Exercise. I will work with you to find a way to move your body that you look forward to — I want you to love it. You will go on a fitness scavenger hunt to find those treasures, whether it’s daily walks, working with a trainer, yoga, Zumba, aqua classes, Pilates — I’m loaded with knowledge about what’s out there, the results you can expect to get, and how to integrate movement into your life on a regular basis so it becomes who you are — not inconsistent or non-existent. It’s a non-negotiable, If you don’t think you have time, you’re just lying to yourself. And that’s all I’ve got to say about that.
All of my skill, devotion, knowledge, care, guidance, inspiration and motivation in Level Up is available to you for $599.
Once I see your registration come through, I will send you your Level Up pre-work and we will set up your 1:1 appointments.
First come, first served — between my private practice, my work as a fitness coach at my gym, having a family, and taking care of myself (practicing what I preach), my calendar is filling up.
I challenge you to find a licensed therapist … who’s also a life coach … who’s also a group exercise instructor … who’s also a personal trainer — an ideal professional combination to help you get to the heart of this and get things done.
I challenge you to find a woman who has all of those professional qualifications and has also:
- lost over 35 pounds eight years ago and changed her relationship with her body forever
- who trusts herself (not a plan designed by a company whose goal is to profit from me gaining and losing the same weight over and over again) to eat for energy and take pleasure in food (both can co-exist)
- who loves to move her body and has tried and embraced many forms of exercise — it should be an adventure to find out what you and your body love — not a burden
- whose 48-year-old body is stronger and healthier than the woman she was in her 30s with a 70 lb. postpartum weight gain and the battle scars — physically and emotionally — of four miscarriages in less than two years
When you’re done looking, and you realize that I’m the one — let’s get going.
Eight of the 10 spots I’m offering were claimed in less than a week.
Don’t spend all of your time ruminating and reading this email 45 times.
Come with me. I’ve got you.
It’s never too late, you’re never too old, and nothing is too good to be true.